Sex can attach you to your partner like gorilla glue. Though it’s normal to go through periods or higher or lower sexual desire, having sex is essential to healthy relationships and tends to inspire having more sex. Here are some suggestions for overcoming this block:
- How about you set the timer on your phone for five minutes? Most of us can take a five minute break in your busy schedule. The timer also helps you to let go of distractions and be fully present because you have agreed on a time limit. If you find you’re both into it, you can set the timer for another five minutes. One caveat: Seeking climax in every quickie dissipates desire to come together again while a five-minute no-goal quickie whets your appetite for a multi-course meal later.
- Agree on a time for sex that works for both of you. Too many couples schedule sex for the time slot between tooth brushing and sleep. You’re unlikely to be alert enough to bring full energy and attention to your coupling. One clever woman realized she felt lusty at 10 am and told her partner to figure out how they could get it on at that hour. If you’re still not feelin’ it, see the tips in the article on how boundaries and trying something new can revive your interest.